One of the most awaited part of the wedding is the cutting of the cake, which has always been a tradition. It has come to symbolize the first task in the couple’s life together. Originally, guests will have a share of the cake which was solely cut by the bride.


As cakes became grander, the task became quite unnerving, particularly for the multi-tiered cakes where the icing had to be strong and rigid enough to support the upper tiers, which is now known to be fondant icing. After cutting the cake, the bride and groom feed each other the first slice which symbolizes the mutual commitment to share and provide for each other. Two people as one, facing life’s journey together.


Wedding is a commitment to share whatever path life takes you on, with love and devotion, and the shared cutting of the first slice represents this commitment. Sharing of the cake to each other symbolizes your vows which means to love, honor and respect one another.

Dos and Don’ts

The cake cutting ceremony is a highly anticipated part of the wedding reception for it is a sentimental moment that is very festive. It is a nostalgic moment that symbolizes the first time the newlywed couple slice a cake as husband and wife, and it also demonstrates their promise to support and nurture one another. So let’s make sure that the cutting of the wedding cake goes off without any misconceptions for it is heavy with tradition and symbolism.



  • Timing: If you are holding a lunch or dinner reception, cut the cake after the meal and just before the desserts are served.
  • Educate the MC: Make sure that the MC announces the event and have your best man make a toast for the couple.
  • Listen to the Photographer: The cake cutting is a highly photogenic moment and the photographer will ask the couple to cut a particular layer of the cake that will work best for photos.
  • Pause for awhile: Friends and family members would want snapshots of the ceremonial first cut, and gracious couples will take their time to allow plenty of pictures.
  • Use a Serving Set: Use a special silver cake knife, especially purchased for the occasion.
  • Cut it together: In cutting the cake, the groom’s right hand will gently hold the bride’s right hand – and make sure to slice through the bottom layer!
  • Feed Each Other First: The groom will feed the bride first and then the bride to the groom from the slice they cut.
  • Offer Slices to In-Laws: Make sure that you both serve each other’s parents with a piece of cake.
  • Assign someone: Ask a friend or someone from the catering staff to cut and serve the cake to your guests.(On a personal note, make sure you ask the manager to cut and place a heavy portion for the close family – I usually do this in my close circuits)



  • Smash Cake: Don’t make a mockery of this ceremony by smashing cake into one another’s faces. This can ruin carefully applied makeup, well-made tuxedos, and expensive wedding gowns. Do not destroy the respect the cake cutting ceremony is supposed to demonstrate.
  • Use Your Fingers: A delicate dessert fork is the appropriate piece of cutlery for feeding one another and thus, eliminates the temptation to smash the dessert.
  • Cut the Top Tier: Not only may the top tier be too unstable for a good first cut, but many couples choose to save the top tier of their wedding cake for their first anniversary.(yes, very heavily matured rum cake varietals only) .Ask your Cake designer for advice.


White Cake Symbolism

People prefer white wedding cake for it symbolizes purity and virginal attributes. Back then, people also believe that the whiter the cake the more expensive it is and the more affluent the families involved were perceived! And the bigger the cake, the more popular the bride is. Originally, wedding cakes were called bride cakes. This means that bride is not just the center of attraction in a wedding, but it creates a link between the bride and the cake. In fact, even today, it is eminent. Many couples would want the color of their wedding cake to match the wedding dress.